“But that’s none of my business”

Look, I get it. We all want to know why Aunty Shenaaz slapped her son (He’s always giving her grief, shame). And, I mean, not everyone was invited to Zarina’s daughter’s wedding and they have to know how that daughter-in-law tried to upstage the bride with her fancy, tight tight dress and sky-high heels (Must warn the people about her, you know). Not forgetting that Kara girl that just doesn’t want to get married (We all know she must be having someone on the side).

Okay, so maybe not all the stories go like that, but you know where I’m going with this (I hope). It’s something we’ve all got a problem with (myself included). We don’t know when to stop. Definitely not helping when social media is everybody’s definition of a supposed-to-be-private diary. And that’s our Jihaad! The fight to walk away from the temptation of gossip.

Nabi (S.A.W) said: “Part of the perfection of a one’s Iman, is his leaving that which does not concern him.” [On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (R.A), taken from Tirmidhi]

What is gheebah?
As take from Islamic Info {http://islamqa.info/en/9784}:

“Gheebah (gossip) means that a person mentions the faults of his Muslim brother in his absence, which he would not like if he heard about it, when there is no need to mention them.

When I say “mentions the faults of his brother”, this excludes cases when the other person says something to praise or commend him.

When I say “Muslim brother”, this excludes the kafir (non-Muslim), for there is no gheebah in the case of a kafir.

When I say, “in his absence”, this excludes things said in his presence, which is not called gheebah according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions.

When I say, “which he would dislike if he heard about it”, this excludes things which he would not mind.

When I say, “when there is no need to mention them”, this excludes cases when there is a shar’i (legal religious) reason for doing that, such as warning against an innovator to make people aware of his bid’ah (innovation).”

It’s our choice. You laugh at one person; ten people will laugh at you. You gossip about one person; ten people will gossip about you. The world is a circle (well, mathematically, a sphere, but I’m done with school, so it doesn’t matter anymore). Retribution is always around the corner. Forget about that, do we really want to earn ourselves the anger of Allah (S.W.T)? Do we want to risk the chance of giving up on Jannah? We live in this world for the Aakhira. Don’t compromise that honor.

Modesty, Speech and Time.. Allah tells us to exercise modesty, to control our speech and to reflect on how we spend our time in order to cure the purge that is gossiping.

Remember, you take one step towards Allah, Allah takes ten steps towards you.

May Allah protect us all and grant us the ability to overcome our Nafs.

Love and Duas,



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