Yeah, dude, you keep your gaze on them. Because if you don’t see it with your own two eyes, you have no reason for them to be the cause of the separation of your lips or the usage of brain cells.
Innocent Until Proven Guilty. That’s it. That’s what Islam encourages us to follow. So being suspicious of your brothers and sisters (excluding your biological ones. They’re always guilty), in general, is against the teachings of Islam. Hazrat Umar (R.A) said that we should try to give others good excuses when we see them doing wrong.
Thing is, that ‘sock’ you can’t find is probably hibernating under your bed, not been filched by the domestic help (go check now. Yes, now).
Now, I could be wrong (Hah, no!), but none of us possess the talent of reading minds (Drop me an email if you do. I’ve got some cases to crack, Watson). This means that you just might be erroneous about the person you’re stalking (I went there *gasp*).
Why are we so ready to believe Non-Muslims over Muslims? Or the Media over Muslims? I can feel myself grow in age when I type this, but I’ll risk the grey hairs: Don’t believe everything you read. We’re so gullible that even though the media has been proven wrong countless times (one word: Broadcasts), we still allow them to taint the image of Muslims and Islam.
Okay, Fair’s Fair. We’re human (unicorns can’t read, so I hate to crush your fake glittery horn, but you aren’t one). We make mistakes. The target is to avoid immediately thinking bad of someone. Having proof is another dimension. You do your thing. What you think they think isn’t your issue (I love that sentence). That’s between them and their Allah (throwback to “but that’s none of my business”). You deal with them at face value. Busy yourself with your work, and think the opposite of what first doubt invades your mind.
Usama bin Zayd (R.A) was once fighting during a battle. He was about to kill a Kafir, when he pronounced the Shahada. Usama (R.A) still killed him. When the matter came to the Nabi (S.A.W), he became very angry with what Usama (R.A) did. Usama (R.A) protested that the man had only pronounced the Shahada to protect himself. The Rasool (S.A.W) replied to him by asking him, “Did you open his heart to see what he meant?”
When the hypocrites spread the lie about Aisha (R.A), Abu Ayyub al-Ansari and his wife were discussing it. Um Ayyub asked her husband that if he was there alone with Aisha, would he do any Haram. He answered no. She replied by saying that the Sahaba that was accused is better than her husband. Then Abu Ayyub asked his wife if it was her with the Sahaba, would she commit any Haram. She replied in the negative. Abu Ayyub answered by saying that Aisha is more righteous than his wife. So these two people stopped any suspicion there may have been.
Sometimes, all we need to do is think logically. Take away all emotional connection from our deduction. The truth is there for us to see. It isn’t worth the regret, the sin, the division, the hatred, the mental strain. Nothing ever is.
Remember, you take one step step towards Allah, Allah takes ten steps towards you.
May Allah protect us all and grant us the ability to overcome our Nafs.
Love and Duas,