Well, ‘the’ words are actually English. Perturbingly found in the Oxford English Dictionary. Disturbingly right under Fuchsia. Okay, not really. but it’d be hilarious if it was.
In case you didn’t know, the idea is that the phrase (title reference) excuses the speaker for using some coarse words under the coy pretense that they’re from a foreign language (seriously, who they think they’re kidding?). The phrase may have been appropriated for covering foul language because it fits the habit of ascribing distasteful habits or objects to the French through nicknames in English. For example, “taking French leave” is leaving a gathering without saying goodbye and thanking the host. Which is baffling. Why French? Because, i mean, i also don’t speak Dutch, Italian and Russian. But, considering i don’t trust Wikipedia all that much, that’s going to remain unanswered.
We’re going to have to leave it as the French are a rude lot. Or thought to be.
Not that we’re any higher on the Honorable scale. When did it become ‘cool’ and ‘awesome’ to cast around foul utterances? Not only that, but there’s something amiss with more than a trickle of the teenagers of this generation. If I got called a bad word, chances are I’d be gaping at the dolled up swag-wannabe lass and trying to control the twitch in my right fist (because momma says violence isn’t the answer). But no, apparently, it’s now considered a compliment (hello, parallel dimension). And if your Best Friend has an unsavory nickname for you, you’ll fit in right there on Instagram with your #FriendshipGoals. Yes, let’s all be unscrupulous together. Maybe then we’ll get rid of that nasty ‘moral’ intellect.
Bukhari and Muslim reported that Ibn Massaoud (R.A) narrated that the Prophet (S.A.W) said: “Swearing to a Muslim is a debauchery and an immoral act, and killing a Muslim is an act of Kufr.”
Bukhari also reported that Abdullah Bin Omar (R.A) narrated that the Prophet (S.A.W) said: “A Muslim is a person whom all Muslims are safe from his tongue and hands.”
Imam Ahmad and Tirmizi reported that Ibn Masoud (R.A) narrated that the Prophet (S.A.W) said: “A Muslim is not a person who slanders, curses, speaks obscene words or is abusive.”
I quoted three Hadith’s in a row for a reason. It’s not a simple thing! We live our whole lives by the norm. Oh, they’re blasphemous, I can be blasphemous too. No! There’re consequences. And not trivial ones.
Ibn ‘Abbas (R.A) said, “Two men defamed one another in the time of the Nabi (S.A.W). One of them reviled the other who remained silent. The Prophet, (S.A.W) remained seated. Then the other man answered him back and the Prophet (s.A.W) got up. He was asked, “You got up?” He said, “The angels left, so I left with them. While this man was silent, the angels were answering the one who cursed him. When he answered, the angels left.” (Adab al-Mufrad)
Don’t use text-speak swear words either. You know what I’m talking about. We all know what they mean. Don’t even type it. Yeah, it’s not even the whole word, only one letter, but it makes a difference. Your brain starts recognizing the words. It starts interpreting the letters, and pretty soon, Allah forbid, it’ll slip out your mouth and become a natural occurrence. We’ve just gone over it. Halitosis isn’t lone thing that makes Angels take wing.
Remember, you take one step step towards Allah, Allah takes ten steps towards you.
May Allah protect us all and grant us the ability to overcome our Nafs.
Love and Duas,