I’m referring to Jelly of the non-edible sorts, of course.
When Allah’s Messenger (S.A.W) was asked: “Who are the best of people? He (S.A.W) replied: “The one with a clean heart and truthful tongue.” They asked: “We understand a truthful tongue, but what does a clean heart mean?” To which Nabi (S.A.W) answered: “It is the heart of one that is pious, pure, and is free of sin, transgressions, hatred and Hasad.” [Ibn Majah]
There’s Ghibtah, and there’s Hasad. Ghibtah is free of malice. Hasad is destructive resentment. I mean, if you’re going for Umrah, I’m going to be jealous. Not to the point of wishing your dog eats your ticket, however. It’s the Halaal Jealousy.
She wears Puma and you wear Pumba. That’s okay. Nobody really notices the extra ‘b’ anyway.
She drives a Ferrari and you drive a Fiat. That’s okay. It’s how you drive the car that matters anyway.
She goes to thee Hair-Salon and you get it done on the street. That’s not okay. You’re going to end up with a dish-cut if you’re not careful. I’m kidding. It’s okay (Probably). Saving money is always a good thing.
“Beware of jealousy. It is the Green-Eyed Monster that doth mock the flesh it feeds on.” Sigh. Othello still haunts me. Clearly, 8 months wasn’t enough for me to move on (I left Macbeth for him and everything). Candidly, it’s not often Shakespeare is worth quoting (we only learnt them for essay’s, who’re you trying to kid?), but that one stuck in my head. Maybe because it encompasses the aura of jealousy.
Hasad is like this value for money deal. It’ll destroy you in this world. It’ll destroy you in the Hereafter. It’ll ruin you. It’ll ruin the person you’re envying and cursing. Everybody loses in this world; you lose in the Hereafter as well. It is our obligation as Muslims to love for the other what we love for ourselves and to hate for the other what we hate for ourselves.
Nabi (S.A.W) said: “Do not look to those above you. Look to those below you, as it will more likely remind you of Allah’s favors bestowed on you.” [Saheeh al-Bukharee and Saheeh Muslim]
It’s a Jihaad. Rationally, not everybody has the perfect life. But if you consider how much more you have than others, you’ll lead a life of contentment.
A foolproof P.O.A (Plan Of Action. I was a Business Studies Student) to get rid of the jealousy germ?
Make Dua to Allah and ask Him to rid you of this problem. Ponder the meanings of the Quraan and read it frequently; especially the verses which speak of Hasad. Read the biography of the Messenger (S.A.W) and see how he kept away from Hasad and how he loved well for others, even for his enemies. If you feel that you are jealous of a specific person, then buy him a gift and shake hands with him.
Because if Shaytaan manages to instill Hasad in your heart, you need to take care not to show it. Shaykh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: “Nobody is free from Hasad, but the noble person hides it whilst the base person shows it.” A person will not be brought to account for whatever crosses his mind, but he will be brought to account for what he says and does.
Remember, you take one step towards Allah, Allah takes ten steps towards you.
May Allah protect us all and grant us the ability to overcome our Nafs.
Love and Duas,