Trolls, where y’all at? And by ‘trolls’, I mean everyone because hey, we’ve all got an inner troll. For the benefit of those refuting my previous statement, maybe I should provide a definition for said term. A troll posts deliberately offensive statements on social media. Usually in the comments section. If we stretch it a little, a troll is just, generally, a deliberately offensive person all-round.
I don’t have Instagram, as I’m sure my dad would be glad to know, but I’ve come across quite a few entertaining Instagram Wars. Eventually, it passed the entertaining stage and I thought maybe I should teach people how to behave on social media. And invariably in real life.
There are three kinds of people.
Person A is the sharer, with a penchant to document their life and questionable decisions openly. Person B is known to be oh-so-eloquent (if you block your ears, close your eyes and rephrase everything they say), and has no qualms about broadcasting their views will all due insensitivity. Person C is the wannabe bodyguard, the kind that thinks they’re helping but ends up making everything worse.
Oh, wait. I’ve thought of another kind; Person D. Person D isn’t insulting or degrading. Person D thinks before they talk. Person D leads by example. Be like Person D.
Contrary to popular belief, every kind of person is correct and incorrect simultaneously. We’re going to go through them and it might be a lot to take and it might not all be astute of me but here we go.
Rasoolullah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “A Muslim is he from whose tongue and hand a Muslim is safe.” [Sahih Bukhari]
Let’s start with Person B. Thee most attacked person because they speak their mind. Amr bil-Ma’ruf and Nahi anil-Munkar. Enjoining what is good and forbiding that which is evil is one of the most noblest and sublime acts. Allah has blessed you with the ability to stand up for Deen and that is not to be underestimated. Never allow yourself to feel silly for trying to guide people onto Siratul Mustaqeen. But as far as possible, be gentle with your words. Harshness may hold you liable for driving them away from Islam. Encourage, not discourage. Do it privately, without ridiculing them. Do it with love. Do it with sincerity. Do it for Allah and not out of jealousy. At the end of the day, you’re answerable for your actions, not their change.
Nabi (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “Part of the perfection of a man’s Islam is in his leaving alone that which does not concern him.” [Sahih Tirmidhi]
Ah, Person C. Y’all better watch yourselves.When my sister shouts at me, nobody wants to get involved and save me (I’m kidding, I love my sister). Why? Because we’re sisters and sisters would want the best for each other. Well guess what? We’re all brothers and sisters in Islam! Someone is being reprimanded, stay out of it. It’s not in their best interest for you to ‘help’ them. And we get that there’s a level of muhabbat between you, Masha Allah, may Allah increase it. But if a mother is shouting her child, teaching them manners, you’re going to harm the future of that child if you get involved. Bear in mind that if you’re defending a person committing a haraam act, you’re as good as committing the haraam act with them. You’ve condoned that behavior. Wallahi, be careful. Person A might been about to take Person B’s advice to heart before you donned your ill-fitting knight costume but then you came. And they decided that they had back up so they took the heeding with a pinch of salt becsuse hey, it isn’t just me with thinks it’s okay. Also, you’re contradicting yourself when you viciously attack Person B on ‘behalf’ of Person A. Watch yourself fam.
Rasoolullah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said: “The believer will be brought close to Allah until He conceals him and makes him confess his sin. Allah will say, ‘Do you remember such and such a sin?’ The man will say, ‘Yes, I admit it.’ Allah will reply, ‘I concealed it for you in the world and I forgive you for it today.’ Then He will close up his record of good deeds. As for the others or the Kuffaar, it will be called out before the witnesses, ‘These are the ones who disbelieved in their Lord. The curse of Allah is upon the wrongdoers.’” [Sahih Bukhari]
And now for Person A. Hey. How ya doing? Can you maybe not spam everybody with your sins? I understand; you think you’re inspiring young muslims by posting a video of yourself sprouting ‘words of widom’ (example) but you’re going about it the wrong way. Spread Deen by practicing Deen. Attract others by living Islam because Islam is beautiful enough. Teach others the True message! And keep it private. Don’t become the reason for the spread of fitnah, May Allah save us. This doesn’t mean that you’re imperfect or that we’re judging you for your imperfection. This isn’t an attack against you specifically. We all commit sins. Take it with a good heart because Person B cared enough to try to save you punishment. Everybody needs that wakeup call sometime. It’s just that the alarm volume is lower for some and higher for others. The harder the fall, the higher the bounce. Allah is Most Merciful.
Remember, you take one step towards Allah, Allah takes ten steps towards you.
May Allah protect us all and grant us the ability to overcome our Nafs.
Love and Duas,